

Kink is not real life. I know a lot of you are reading that statement and going "duh", but I don't think it's fully clear to those that don't actively participate in a kinky lifestyle. What gets someone off mentally, doesn't necessarily have any relation to who they are as a person in their day-to-day life. Let me provide some examples; I've played with many couples where the husband is into cuckolding, chastity, small penis humiliation, sissification, degradation, etc. and while you may see that list of kinks and think you have a pretty good idea of what someone into those things may be like, you're probably not in the ballpark, they're just regular men you encounter in your daily life. The only general description I could really apply to them as a group based on my personal experience is they tend to be successful in their careers; doctors, business owners, skilled professionals, corporate managers, lawyers, etc. Let's move on to submissives. I hate generalities, but on the whole I would say most submissive people reserve submissiveness for the bedroom because they enjoy it for any multitude of reasons; it's not because they're a timid wallflower who just gets steamrolled in everything they do. I assure you if I said half the things I say during a play date to one of my submissives in the middle of a Starbucks, I'm probably going to get punched in the face, and rightfully so. Same applies to dominants, I'm a naturally dominant guy, but don't confuse being dominant with being an asshole which is super common. A dominant person may take charge of a situation, but it's not at the expense of everyone else involved, we're servant leaders, the goal is to improve everyone's experience. This is a long roundabout way of saying, when you message me asking if some specific fantasy scenario you saw in porn happens off camera, don't be surprised when the answer is no. People go back to their regular lives as parents, professionals, and loving spouses.